OSHO: ईर्ष्या – प्रेम का अभाव Eershya – Prem Ka Abhaav


Why is there jealousy in love? If there is jealousy in love then love, is not love at all; then in the name of love some other disease is happening. Jealousy is a sign of the absence of love. This is as if the lamp is lit and there is darkness. If the lamp is lit darkness should not be there. The proof of a lamp being lit is in the disappearance of darkness. Disappearance of jealousy is the proof of love. Jealousy is like darkness; love is like light. Understand this to be a criteria. Until jealousy exists understand that love, is not love. Till then some other game is going on in the name of love; the ego is on a new trip– in the name of love the pleasure of owning the other, exploiting the other in the name of love, using the other person as a means. And using the other person as a means is the biggest immorality in the world. Because each person is the divine. Each person is the proof, not an instrument. So do not ever use someone even by mistake. If you can be of use to someone it is alright, but never use someone for yourself. There is no greater insult than this, that you utilise someone for your work. This means that you have made the divine a servant. If you can become a servant then be one, but never make a servant. Real love arises only on the day you understand this truth, that in every direction sits the divine. Then nothing is left except service. So love is service: not jealousy. Love is surrender; not ownership. You have asked: ‘Why is there jealousy in love?’ But, I can understand the difficulty of the questioner. 99 out of 100 times the love we know is another name for jealousy. We are very skillful. We are very accomplished in sprinkling fragrance on filth and forgetting about it. We are perfect at placing flowers over the wounds. We are very artful in turning lies into truth. So what happens is jealousy; we call it love. In this way jealousy goes on in the name of love. What happens is hate; we call it love. What happens is something else. A lady has asked another question. She has asked that I cannot do sufi meditations and neither do I allow my husband to do sufi meditations. Because in sufi meditations one has to make eye contact and look into another’s eyes. There are women also. And if the husband looks into another women’s eyes and something happens from there then what will happen to me? And anyway I do not get along with my husband too well. Someone with whom we do not get along even with them we keep calling it love. Someone we have never loved even with them we go on talking of love. Love is a different arrangement for us– security, financial, convenience of life. If the husband leaves then there is panic. By holding on to the husband you might have got a house, might have gotten money– your life found a framework. If you are satisfied with this framework then it is upto you. But due to this framework you are missing the divine, because you attain to the divine through love. There is no doorway to meet the divine other than love. One who misses love misses the divine also. How can fear and love go hand in hand? So much fear that the perhaps the husband might look into another woman’s eyes! Then love has not happened at all. Then the husband has not looked into your eyes and neither have you looked into his eyes. Neither you see the divine in the husband, nor the husband sees the divine in you. Then this relationship, will you call it a love relationship? If love happens then fear disappears. Then if the husband can keep looking into the eyes of all women in the world and it will not make a difference. In every woman’s eyes he will find you. In every woman’s eyes he will meet your eyes. Because each woman will be a reflection of you. Looking at every woman will be a remembrance of you. But love does not happen; somehow we are supporting ourselves. I have heard, in a big twenty seven floor building Mulla Nasruddin is going up in the elevator. The lift was crowded. And when on the second floor Mulla Nasruddin and his wife entered the lift it got even more crowded. And on the fourth floor a very beautiful woman entered and there was no absolutely no space left. The woman stood somehow shrunken between Mulla and his wife. The lift started going up, but Mulla’s wife began to be very restless. By the time they reached the twenty seventh floor. And Mulla is standing so close to this woman and the woman also is standing so close and there is no way to say anything either because there is no space at all. Her restlessness began to grow even more because Mulla is very blissful. Mulla’s delight! Mulla is as if in heaven! And also Mulla is looking again and again with a face that drools and is admiring the woman. Then suddenly the woman screams and gives a tight slap on Mulla’s face. She shouts: lecherous old man! How dare you! You dare to pinch me! There was silence in the lift. On the next floor Mulla got out rubbing his face along with his wife. Coming out of the lift his speech returned. He said: I do not understand what happened! I did not pinch her. I know, said the wife feeling very delighted: I did the pinching. Your love relations are like this. Guarding each other. There is animosity to one another, where is the love? In love there is no guarding, In love there is trust. In love there is a faith. Love has a unique reverence. These are all flowers of love– reverence, trust, belief. If the lover cannot trust, cannot be reverent, cannot be faithful, then the flowers of love have not bloomed. Jealousy, exasperation, ill-will, resentment, animosity are flowers of hatred. So you are holding flowers of hatred and you think you have planted a sapling of love. You bear the bitter fruits of neem and you think that mango tree has been planted. Break this confusion. This is why when I say that love can be a way to reach till to the divine you listen to what I say but, cannot trust it. Because you know very well love Your life is in hell because of this love. And if I am talking about this love then certainly I am saying the wrong thing. I am talking of some other love– of that love, which you are searching for, but you have not found yet. It can be found, it is your possibility. And until you find it you will weep, be miserable, will be upset. Until your the flowers of life do not bloom and a fragrance does not arise in the flowers of life, till then you will remain restless. Dissatisfied! Till then whatsoever you do, there will be no relief, no peace shall come. Without flowering you cannot be a knower. Love is the flower. Love is a very religious phenomenon. Love is the opposite end of jealousy. Love is nearer to prayer. When love happens then the step ahead is prayer. And when prayer happens then step ahead is the divine. Love, prayer, the divine– They are three steps of the same temple. This OSHO Talk is excerpted from “Jagat Taraiyya Bhor Ki #10”.

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